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Why does most of the relationship fail? Is it because of individuality? Or is it about point of views? What about values? Is it about priority? Or is it all because partners just don’t know what a man or a woman really needs since they are different?
If you are to question what matters most about in relationship, can you figure that out in an instant? Well, I don’t think so. Because if you are to base your answer on various surveys that are being held nowadays, you can then realize that things will just fit into their proper places if you’ll be exerting enough effort to make things work out which is measured on how committed the partners are to their relationship, both in short- and long- term.
In an affinity, if you are to cast doubt on the truthfulness of your partner or if you are to bemoan the slack morals of today’s teenagers, for instance, you can point out it all depends on how you will accept things the way they are when you knew it. Funny isn’t it? But, that’s one of the best thing that you can do.
Crucial to the study of relationships is the question of how one defines love. And also how couples in relationship managed the division between themselves and their priorities and disparity. Also, it could matter on what kind of lover you have. If you have a lover who is inspired of insecurity and is actually looking for a partner to fulfill their needs and wants; and provide them with stability- being practical in such a way that they really don’t mind their feelings, you honestly have a love doomed to failure. Because the basis of the union is only a high degree of dependency; it will not be able to cope with each individual’s growth and changing. However, there is another kind of relationship which is a much balanced kind of love sharing. If it is defined as promoting your partner’s welfare; having a good mutual understanding; giving and receiving emotional support; establishing healthy two- way communication; couples tend to satisfy each other’s needs, wherein both partners are essentially secure in themselves. And this kind of relationship has a higher chance of surviving, because both individual’s psychological needs are already fulfilled.
And don’t you know that there are people who do base the kind of relationship they have with colors? Now, let me ask you. What is the real color of love for you? Or, is there really a color of love for your present relationship aside from what we know “RED”? Positively, there is a sociologist who had a study about the different colors for love. It is not the usual colors that we have because he tends to identify love not in a conventional way. People such as he is every bit pretentious as paint manufacturers when it comes to choosing names for colours. So, let’s see what color of love you have:
EROS: this is where a person searches for a partner who fits a clear mental picture they have of their ideal physical type.
LUDUS: the love in a relationship which both partners see as essentially light- hearted, rather than one which has a chance of leading to long- term commitment.
STORGE (‘stor-gay’): this is a type of love displayed in friendship whose level of intimacy and affection show increase.
MANIA: a very intensive and emotional form of love often typified by a person being possessive and jealous of their partner.
AGAPE (‘ah-gah-pay’): s selfless, altruistic love in which the person looks after their partner and attends to their every need without expecting something in return. Women are very familiar with this colour of love.
PRAGMA: a very calculating form of love. Someone experiencing this will attach just as much importance to their prospective partner’s location or occupation as they do to feelings or emotions. A more common name for this type of love is “Gold Digging”.
And now, speaking of formulas, aside of course, been the Holy Grail of human happiness since time began, Donn Byrne, being another sociologist, was determined to approach matters in a more scientific manner. The formula works by rating your feelings for a potential lover with those you have for an average friend and comparing the difference, using five factors:
A. Your general attraction to the person. (on scale of 1-10, calculate the strength of a particular friendship and compare it with your relationship- supposing that 5 means your missing the person considerably if absent.)
B. The intellectual stimulus you get when you are together (if rating of 10 means finding the person’s conversion vital.)
C. Your willingness to be physically close (if 5 means you are on hugging terms.)
D. The extent to which you want the person to want you (if 1 means it doesn’t matter.)
E. Your fear that your relationship with the person will break up (if 5 on the scale means you would be distressed if your friendship ended, but not devastated.)
The idea is that if the score of your feelings for someone you think you love exceeds that for your friend to a sufficient degree, then it really is love. So, love is:
(1.7 x A) + (1.5 x B) + (1.5 x C) + (1.5 x D) + (1.3 x E)
I hope that after trying the formula, you can then identify if the feeling you have now is a REAL- TRUE LOVE! Stay in love everyone.
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